How You Say?

How do you say what you feel about what is going on in your church without being seen as critical?
To answer myself, I would say you say it with prayer and in love. At the same time, if you have been doing that, and still are seen that way, I think you have to just accept that some people will just see you that way. If the Spirit leads you to share this then you should share it. And, not with everyone-- just the persons involved. What do YOU think?